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Hello Cool-Girls ! I’m going to share with you my plan of 30 days to feeI better. I think it’s safe to say that we’ve all been through difficult times: grief, a painful breakup, doubts. During these times we can feel profoundly lonely because it’s a bit taboo to say we’re not okay. We might even feel shame because everyone around us seems happy, even if it is not always true.

When we try to confide in a loved one, it can feel even worse because no matter what they say, it feels like they don’t truly understand our pain or that nothing will make us feel better.

Usually, when faced with such difficulties, we tend to burry these feelings , distract ourselves, or cope in unhealthy ways, thinking that with time they will go away. But I promise you, no matter how far you run away from your feelings, they’ll always come back one day or another.

That’s what I learned when I went through a similar period: you have to face and embrace your feelings – the fear, the sadness the despair, the anger, the hate. Each of these feelings needs to be acknowledge and processed one by one.

It is not an overnight solution; it can take days, weeks, months or even years. But it will be the only solution to heal your heart until these experiences become just old memories. Negative feelings are a part of the “human experience”; they’re messages from our soul that we need to listen in order to evolve.

1. Bed Rotting Phase

At the very beginning of your journey you might find yourself experiencing a period of “bed rotting”. What is bed rotting ?

This describes spending an extended amount of time in bed, beyond just sleeping, during your waking hours. It can involve activities like scrolling through your phone, watching shows, or just lying there.

Don’t be ashamed – it is a normal reaction to a traumatic experience. Your body need to process what just happened.

Give yourself permission to take it easy, it’s not the moment to be productive or hard on yourself.

Of course, life goes on, and your job or children’s needs still need to be taken care. But be kind to yourself during your personal time and focus on your needs – you deserve it. If you have a supportive partner ask for help.

This phase is temporary and only lasts a few days to a week. Please be gentle with yourself !

2. Leaving the Bed Rotting Phase in 30 days to feeI better

Going back to a normal life after a challenging event is no easy task. During this process we often tend to be harsh on ourselves because we are not productive, missing the old version of ourself. It’s common to experience a burst of energy and try to make up for lost time but i can assure you it is not going to work because this isn’t sustainable.

Don’t get discouraged by the mountain ahead. You need to rebuild your confidence to get back on your feet, one step at a time.

To help you climb that mountain, I’ve created a 30 days to feeI better challenge with 30 small, achievable steps you can take each day. It’s a mix of self-care and self-empowerment missions designed to steadily guide you back to your best self. You can print it out and place it on your nightstand to check off the boxes each day.

I Hope You Feel Better Soon!

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